Your wife thinks you have marriage problems When you visit a Psychologist she is only interested in airing dirty linen and making a general statement of abuse without specifics Is she playing games

I learned something years ago concerning the feelings of a loved one, and I can only suggest that you and your wife try this method of airing your dirty laundry. Instead of talking to each other which rarely does any good because you aren't talking from your hearts, you are talking from your mouths. Try writing each other letters. Don't point fingers at each other, point out the facts of life, that you think is ruining your marriage. Ask your wife to reply the same way as you did to her, in writing only. Ask her to write from her heart, to sit and read her letter to you over and over making sure she has left nothing out. You do the same and in the end of things, I bet this can work for you as it has worked for thousands of other couples with marriage problems. Visiting a therapist of any type is the place to say how you feel and let them know what you think is going on. She may not be trying to make you feel bad but letting the individual know what exactly is and has been going on to have a logical assessment. This is a place to talk about things that you normally can't talk about one on one and if you continue I would suggest you open up as well and this will help the outcome of what you both hope.
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I believe that she is playing psychological games, and trying to make you feel very uncomfortable. On top of that, she is placing allegations of abuse in order to make you afraid of her 'power'. She actually sounds like a rather classic emotional abuser. You should read up about them, and see if she matches as well as I think she does. I will add a related link.